How you see Yourself will determine your results!
Deep in our subconscious mind lies our identity. Our identity is a map as to how we see the world and more importantly, how we see ourselves. In the Book Psycho-Cybernetics, Maxwell Maltz explains that the subconscious uses the Identity (how we see ourselves) as a servo-mechanism similar to a automatic pilot in a airplane which will keep us on track to stay in alignment with how we see ourselves subconsciously. Our daily thoughts, actions and feelings are to maintain and align our lives to reflect and strengthen our Identity. This can be a very positive influence or a terribly negative one. If our identity is responsible for so much of how we live our lives, how did we get it in the first place? Great question, I'll explain.
Identity is comprised of several things but primarily it is comprised of our inner values, beliefs and experiences. Much of our Identity is formed through modeling our caregivers for the first 7 years of life. While we can and do often change some of these core beliefs and values, some of them are very strongly rooted due to the emotions that helped us create them in the first place. These values, beliefs and experiences, (programs) often have strong feelings tied to them and the emotions we experience when going against these programs are uncomfortable and the inner voice that tells us not to try or we are just like our parent or we are just born this way, kicks in and only strengthens the influence these thoughts and beliefs have in our lives. They result in fear, self-sabotage, procrastination and many other limiting behaviors and beliefs. So changing these will require some work but rest assured I will share with you some important tools to help you begin to change the limiting beliefs.
What is a servo-mechanism? Like I mentioned before, a servo-mechanism is like an autopilot in an airplane which keeps the plane moving toward the desired outcome. This servo-mechanism uses the programing in the subconscious mind, both on an identity level which I explained already but also based on recent events and experiences as well. This autopilot influences through memories and feelings (emotions in this case) what we focus on and what we do to some extent. Often the decisions we make have been pre-determined in the subconscious mind before we even consider them consciously. Creating lasting change then requires us to pay attention more to why we are doing the things we are doing so we can begin to apply steps to reroute the autopilot so to speak.
In 2004 a movie/documentary called "What the bleep do we know?" was released that had a very profound impact on those looking to make positive change in their lives. In the movie one of the contributors Dr. Joe Dispensa discusses that when Columbus first arrived in the Americas, the Native Americans could not see the clipper ships as they approached, that their eyes could not see the boats. It wasn't until Columbus and his men arrived in the smaller skiffs that the indigenous people were able to see them. It has been argued that this information might not be 100% verifiable and yet, I know for a fact that we can be wired to not notice certain things while fixating on things that might otherwise go unnoticed.
The eternal question "is the glass half empty or half full" comes to mind as I consider the last paragraph. Are we wired to focus on and noticed the negative in life or the positive? What if our self-image is more wired as self defeating and limiting? What if we don't even know that we are sing life through the lenses of pessimism and lack? And sadly, what if we don't believe we deserve better than we get on a deep subconscious level?
The good news is that all that can change and while it does take some work with some dedication to the vision of what you want, you can make the changes happen faster than you might think. But the first and most important item on your "to do list" for creating change is to know what you want and to focus on that rather than focusing on what you don't want.
Tony Robbins tells of the time he was invited to learn how to drive Nascar. In the training beforehand the instructors told him that there would be a time when the instructor would deliberately cause the car to skid or spin out and that when that did happen he needed to focus on the road and not the wall. You see, all of the drivers in the beginning of training focus on the wall whenever there was a spin out or something else causing the car to go toward the wall. It's natural to look at where the car is going even if it is not where you want it to. The story goes that the instructor had to physically reach over and turn Tony's head to focus on where he wanted to go and not the wall, where he did not want to go.
As I mentioned before, to create the change you want, you must focus first on where you want to go. What you want your life to look like. How you want your self-image to be. It is tempting to focus on what we don't want and as we do, we tend to move toward it even though we don't want to. We are naturally wired to notice what is wrong, it helps us stay alive and yet it can be crippling when we want to create a better life.
Should you find that you would like to take the next step to complete self-image reprograming, reach out to me and let's set up a strategy session to determine what your goals are and if some life coaching and mind-set coaching can help you achieve those goals even faster.